How do we view the world around us? And more specifically, how do we view our “enemies”, particularly those who have abused their authority and deeply wounded those who work under their authority?
Abuse Response
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Bowing the Knee to Pharisaism: It Never Goes Well
Pharisaism cannot be mollified. Paul, nor Jesus, ever makes excuses for it. Pharisaic teaching and practice are destructive.
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Followership: Obedience to Toxic Leadership
Scripture is full of twists and turns that help us navigate the complexities of our world. One such twist is how Scripture handles "turning the other cheek" (Matthew 5:39). Do we with toxic leaders?
The Heart of [Abusive] Leadership: Becoming leaders with a desire for the good and the capacity to carry it out
When seeking change in an abusive leader, it must be kept in mind that he or she is deeply deceived. And this is why abuse advocates have so little confidence in the abusive leader to change.
Ted’s Story: A Band of Brothers
Ted's story is hard to even start the telling. His story is a call to the church to be the church.
Change Agents: Who Will Stand Up?
In John 9, a healed blind man boldly confronts religious leaders. Unlike his fearful parents, he exemplified courage against toxic authority. This is the story of so many who are intimidated by leaders. Followers who fear loss can be easily manipulated. It is how toxic leaders retain their authority over others.
Jeanie’s Story: Shepherding Abuse Survivors Takes Wisdom
Jeanie endured years of emotional and sexual abuse from her husband Richard, facing neglect and inadequate support from church leaders.
Self-Differentiation and the Use of Gifts
Self-differentiation is rooted in biblical and psychological concepts. We need go no further than to focus on the examples of Jesus and King David to illustrate dependence and trust in God as necessary to use our gifting.
Saul’s False Apology: Seeking Repentance from an Abuser
What do you do with an apology from an abusive leader? Real apologies are rare due to inner evil. But we are not omniscient so give it time.
Fret Not for Vindication: Be Still and Wait Patiently
The struggle for validation and vindication in the face of abusive leadership is echoed in Psalms, encouraging patience and trust in God's righteous judgment. The remedy lies in turning to God's Word—Jesus—for healing and endurance.