Sandi has worked for mission agencies almost her entire adult career. And she has experienced multiple toxic leaders in nearly all those agencies.
When it comes to abuse, are we more focused on sin or safety?
Recognizing Jesus is the true and right judge brings healing and forgiveness.
How do we confront people when they sin against us? Biblically, the benefit of the doubt is not always a true application of the Gospel.
How do we forgive those who have abused us in the marketplace or home?
What keeps abuse of authority in the workplace and home alive? Going along to get along. It is man's penchant for crowd-mongering. It is my penchant for pleasing others. While reading the beginning of the book of Proverbs in the Bible, I was struck by the applicability of the very first chapter to the experience … Continue reading Complicity: Going Along to Get Along
Olivia had been abused emotionally by her husband for more than 30 years. She finally got free. She was living in her new-found freedom when he showed up once again, having been gone for over a year. He was getting more and more aggressive as he sought to gain entrance to her life once again. … Continue reading Not As Things Ought to Be: Grieving Our Loss
How do we seek accountability for evil leaders and remain bitter-free? While serving in another country as missionaries, my family became quite delighted with a drink called a "Chapman." It was made of Sobo orange drink, bitters, and 7Up. We enjoyed sipping on them like Southerners sip their sweet tea. Bitters, for those who do not know, … Continue reading Chapman: Bitter Justice
Abuse Trauma creates significant neurological disorder. The Church needs to be a place of safety and healing.
Offering grace does not necessarily mean overlooking toxicity. Accountability is a pearl to be offered.