Abusers actually have a great deal of self-control. They know when to dismember and when to charm.
It is not uncommon to hear people speak of the good that has come from a leader even though he or she is toxic. Let's not draw those lines.
Those who suggest emotional or verbal abuse is not really abuse need to consider scripture and psychology.
Will the "evil" God returns to my abuser be in this life (through trials and tribulations), the end of his life, or simply in the final judgment? He says, in faithfulness, he will "put an end to them."
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
It is hit or miss when it comes to finding justice and healing in the church or Christian organization. We need professional help!
Wading into the depths of Psalms 44 & 46can be both the healing balm and helpful aid to building boundaries that protect our integrity from those who war against a Biblical understanding of abuse.
My first degrees were in music performance. It was then I learned a valuable lesson about responding to abuse.
I sat in the plush CEO's office of a Christian mission organization. A friend had known the mission leader since their parents had worked together on the field when they were children. We were happy to join her though a bit suspicious of her reading of the situation. We knew the president as a charming and responsive leader.
As I sat down a couple mornings ago to read God's Word and consider His mindfulness of me, I was led to Psalm 27 by a lovely little devotional called, "Jesus Calling."