Sandi has worked for mission agencies almost her entire adult career. And she has experienced multiple toxic leaders in nearly all those agencies.
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Sin or Safety: Where is Our Focus?
When it comes to abuse, are we more focused on sin or safety?
A Cry for Justice: Judgment and Forgiveness
Recognizing Jesus is the true and right judge brings healing and forgiveness.
The Benefit of the Doubt: The Ethics of Confrontation
How do we confront people when they sin against us? Biblically, the benefit of the doubt is not always a true application of the Gospel.
Forgiveness: Mimicking Jesus
How do we forgive those who have abused us in the marketplace or home?
Complicity: Going Along to Get Along
What keeps abuse of authority in the workplace and home alive? Going along to get along. It is man's penchant for crowd-mongering. It is my penchant for pleasing others. While reading the beginning of the book of Proverbs in the Bible, I was struck by the applicability of the very first chapter to the experience … Continue reading Complicity: Going Along to Get Along
Not As Things Ought to Be: Grieving Our Loss
Olivia had been abused emotionally by her husband for more than 30 years. She finally got free. She was living in her new-found freedom when he showed up once again, having been gone for over a year. He was getting more and more aggressive as he sought to gain entrance to her life once again. … Continue reading Not As Things Ought to Be: Grieving Our Loss
Chapman: Bitter Justice
How do we seek accountability for evil leaders and remain bitter-free? While serving in another country as missionaries, my family became quite delighted with a drink called a "Chapman." It was made of Sobo orange drink, bitters, and 7Up. We enjoyed sipping on them like Southerners sip their sweet tea. Bitters, for those who do not know, … Continue reading Chapman: Bitter Justice
Trauma: Get Out While the Getting’s Good
Abuse Trauma creates significant neurological disorder. The Church needs to be a place of safety and healing.
Outing a Swine: What the Pope, Hybels, & Driscoll Truly Need
Offering grace does not necessarily mean overlooking toxicity. Accountability is a pearl to be offered.
