Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
It is hit or miss when it comes to finding justice and healing in the church or Christian organization. We need professional help!
Timothy Keller writes insightfully, "To be your own god and live for your own glory and power leads to the most bestial and cruel kind of behavior. Pride makes you a predator, not a person."
Indicative of the abuse of power in the home, church, organization, or workplace is entitlement. Scripture gives no leeway to those who think they are particularly important.
In the experience of abusive leadership in the home, workplace, and government, it is not uncommon to hear demands of submission as if the leader has absolute and ultimate authority. Biblically, it is not true. Don't be fooled by the blustering.
Wading into the depths of Psalms 44 & 46can be both the healing balm and helpful aid to building boundaries that protect our integrity from those who war against a Biblical understanding of abuse.
We are all dependent. We long for respect and love and relationship. But leaders need to depend on God, not our subordinates.
My first degrees were in music performance. It was then I learned a valuable lesson about responding to abuse.
I sat in the plush CEO's office of a Christian mission organization. A friend had known the mission leader since their parents had worked together on the field when they were children. We were happy to join her though a bit suspicious of her reading of the situation. We knew the president as a charming and responsive leader.
As I sat down a couple mornings ago to read God's Word and consider His mindfulness of me, I was led to Psalm 27 by a lovely little devotional called, "Jesus Calling."