Mia suffered under a leadership that was more concerned about following their church rules than the love of Christ. Their spiritual abuse was worse than her experiences of sexual abuses.
Emily's church leadership not only turned a blind eye to her rapist, but told her she was shut out from the kingdom of heaven. Rather than be reminded of her "worth in Christ," she has been crushed by God's shepherds.
Abuse often lives in a system. However, Christians are suspicious of systems theory because they think in a “western individualistic” way.
Mia's change in behavior at home and struggle with the church had its roots in her experience of sexual abuse. It was not too late for Mia, but the church and her parents were going to need to respond to her struggles in light of these horrible experiences as a child.
When do you give up on a toxic leader? More often than not, leadership abuse survivors struggle with "Accountability Guilt."
Humble leadership is the best. This kind of leadership is exactly what we find taught in Scripture.
When it goes well with the righteous, the city rejoices, and when the wicked perish there are shouts of gladness.
Relationship with, the power, or charm of the leader creates followers and like-minded fools. They became complicit with the abuse though maybe having the best intentions.
The church has seemed to become more concerned about its own belly button than for its mission to God's world.
Why was I so grief-stricken? I had lost communion. I had lost communion in the name of God.