Abusers actually have a great deal of self-control. They know when to dismember and when to charm.
It is not uncommon to hear people speak of the good that has come from a leader even though he or she is toxic. Let's not draw those lines.
In my study of toxic leadership over the years, I have found that many authors - experts in their various fields whether psychology, theology, or business management - want to give hope to their readers. They provide many excellent ideas on how to remain under a toxic leader while pursuing a flourishing ministry. "Self-differentiation", conflict … Continue reading Why Leave a Toxic Organization?
Pride and jealousy. It is extraordinary what these sins can do to a leader.
Those who suggest emotional or verbal abuse is not really abuse need to consider scripture and psychology.
When your pastor says, "If you don't trust me, you don't trust God," run.
Will the "evil" God returns to my abuser be in this life (through trials and tribulations), the end of his life, or simply in the final judgment? He says, in faithfulness, he will "put an end to them."
Saul was just like the other kings. He was wicked and abusive. And he had enablers who supported his abusive behavior.
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
It is hit or miss when it comes to finding justice and healing in the church or Christian organization. We need professional help!