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Rachel’s Story: Tenacious Pursuit of Justice

September 18, 2023September 19, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

When Rachel Black was struggling to make sense of her abusive pastor, there was no Christianity Today Mars Hill podcasts and seemingly no books on how an employee in a church is to respond to such disregard. All she knew was the "hairs on her arms stood up" as she sought to understand her boss.

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Lisa’s Victory: A Missionary Horror Story

September 13, 2023September 20, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

She knew that God was calling her to be a missionary. His seeming commitment to Christ and a future as a missionary "touched" her and they were married. But he can no longer harm Lisa.

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Ben and Casandra’s Story: Grieving Loss Under Toxic Leadership

August 15, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / 1 Comment

It was a very good two years working for a mission college. Now they grieve the loss of what they had in Africa.

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Toxic-Free Environment: Finding a Church of Shalom

August 7, 2023September 3, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

It is not unusual for those who have faced off with toxic leadership in the church to turn from the church. If you want to find a church of shalom, here are some hints.

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Gossip, Slander, and Reporting Abuse: Pushing Back on Poor Exegesis

July 18, 2023July 18, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / 1 Comment

One of the most hideous beliefs crushing abuse survivors within our Christian communities is that the ratting out of abusive leadership in the home or workplace is gossip or slander.

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Serving Under the Authoritarian Pastor: Jim’s Story

July 13, 2023July 13, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

“The exercise of authority is designed to serve the well-being of those under its care,” says Timothy Witmer. That seems basic to the Christian, and yet how many bosses view their leadership this way?

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Spreading Like a Tree: Grace to Rescue the Innocent

May 30, 2023July 18, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / 1 Comment

Forgive and forget. Don't judge. Remember we are all sinners. There are actually times when grace means to pronounce judgment and bring accountability.

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What is Real Repentance: a Biblical Change of Heart

May 23, 2023May 24, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

We often focus on the actions of man in the process of determining whether real repentance has taken place. However, repentance is much more than this and our understanding of it will make a significant difference in how we look at those who have been called to repentance after crushing others under their authority or power.

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Deal With the Elephant: Whose Sin Is It?

May 17, 2023May 17, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / 1 Comment

I have often heard survivors of abusive leaders in the home and workplace confess their sins and in some way suggest the abuse they are living under is somehow a necessary result of their sin. Do not be distracted by the wiles of the abuser as he projects his sin upon his victim.

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Aaron’s Story: Pastor as Predator

May 8, 2023May 9, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

I could tell in our discussion that Aaron was the dream employee. After two years of serving in the church, Aaron came home to his wife and shared with her, “I think Pastor Gene has a man-crush on me.”

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