Years ago, in my seminary ethics course, my professor delved into foundational biblical grounds for divorce. He noted that the specific grounds for divorce, clearly taught in Scripture, are adultery and desertion. But he went on to explain that the biblical foundation of those two grounds is that they are a “radical breach of the marriage covenant.” A “radical breach” is not some disagreements or “we have just grown apart.” When there has been a great betrayal by the spouse such as an adulterous relationship or a pattern of failure to love and care for one's spouse (Exodus 21:7-11), the marriage covenant has been radically broken and God, in His mercy, says the offended spouse may make the radically broken covenant legal through divorce.
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Kissing Up: Abusive Middle Managers
It is an extraordinary thing what the God of the universe has done on our behalf. It is written all over the Bible and experienced by millions upon millions through the millennia. Jesus illustrated this reality in Matthew 18 when he told a parable (or story) of a middle manager (MM), his boss, and a subordinate of his own. What I want to point out, in the context of this blog, is the toxicity of this middle manager.
A Word of Great Value: Pearls Before Swine
The CEO was known to use people's words to turn on them. He would simply lie and justify and blame shift when exhorted. We were concerned that he would simply kick us off the mission then and there and we would be stuck half way around the world from our home. Our children were in their last two months of class time in the mission school. Yet the CEO said he wanted to hear why we were leaving. To us it was asking us to stick our necks out with the possibility of being chopped off.
Jesus Was Given All Authority: So . . .
The king sat down to his royal feast with some of his closest advisers. His power was felt by all who sat with him. Yet, the king knew that he was going to be betrayed by one of those advisers. His secret service had uncovered the plot. He knew an overthrow of his kingdom was at hand. So, what was he to do? We know what we would do. We know what a "worldly" leader would do. He/we would do everything possible to strengthen our claim to the throne. We would put down the rebellion before it had any chance to gain a foothold, knowing the traitor and his intent. But Jesus . . .
Crazy Making and Abusive Leadership: Who is Crazy Here?
As my friends and I discussed John 11, I was struck by verses 47 and 48. These couple sentences are so appropo for those who have faced abuse in any setting. The term "Crazy-Making" is often used to describe this infurtiating experience. Jesus has just raised his friend, Lazarus from the dead. And yet, this is what the chief priests and Pharisees said!
Making a Difference: Research that is Boots on the Ground in Dracula’s Neighborhood
Truly toxic leadership always ends badly. This is a type of leadership distinguished by a lack of humility to see and respond to their own failings. Sure, there are "grey" leaders who might be too harsh or somewhere along the line of narcisissm, but they respond to confrontation with thoughtfulness and a willingness to work on their leadership skills. But toxic leadership does not possess this humility.
Leadership Wisdom and Humility: God Chose What is Foolish in the World to Shame the Wise
1st Corinthians 1 says so many things to leaders as well as subordinates in Christian organizations. It speaks of calling and of wisdom and of foolishness and of power and of weakness and of arrogance—all of which are related to leadership and those who follow.
How Good Leaders are Chosen: Moses and the Exodus
What makes a leader good is not that he simply rejects prevailing political approaches, speaks his mind, displays power, or brings wealth and fortune to an organization. However, what is fundamental to good leadership is someone who has skills, humility, and cares for the needs of others, particularly the vulnerable.
Oxford Handbook of Bad Leadership
Nearly a year and a half ago, Anders Örtenblad reached out to me because he was interested in my doctoral research. As a result, I wrote a chapter for "The Oxford Handbook of Bad Leadership" edited by Anders. It is finally about to come out!
Facing a Terrifying Leader: Choosing When to Leave and When to Stay
To some Christians, the choice of whether to stay under a toxic leader in the home, workplace, or organization is not a question. They may consider leaving, but the go-to is a belief that God has called them to suffer for Christ’s sake. I assure them, their consciences are not bound by Scripture.