Hatred and a Man After God’s Own Heart

How could David, a man "after God's own heart," hate others? How could his statements of disdain be included in the worship of God, who is love? There are a number of songs in scripture that are called "imprecatory." [Imprecatory Praying: The Mercy of Destruction] These Psalms are a call for God's judgment on people. These Psalms … Continue reading Hatred and a Man After God’s Own Heart

Self-Differentiation: Standing with Wisdom

I recently heard John's story, a long-time Christian whose leadership in his church was scuttled by the others on the leadership team. It was a difficult story to hear. My friend, John*, is "self-differentiated."  This was a new term to me just a few years ago. I was working on a doctorate and studying abusive … Continue reading Self-Differentiation: Standing with Wisdom

Why Does He Do That: A Day With Lundy Bancroft

I spent a day hearing Lundy Bancroft share his 30 years of research. Of course it could have been a month! I have written of Bancroft's defining of "repentance" before.  As one seminar participant said, "I felt like I was in the presence of greatness!" This awe is due to the fact that Bancroft has … Continue reading Why Does He Do That: A Day With Lundy Bancroft