On this page we will periodically add book recommendations and links to helpful articles. If you have read something that was particularly healing, let us know. We would like to share it.
Dr. Paul White, author of Rising Above a Toxic Workplace (listed below) provides practical resources to help people across the world build healthy work relationships.
Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries brings a different view to the much-studied subjects of leadership and the dynamics of individual and organizational change. Bringing to bear his knowledge and experience of economics (Econ. Drs., University of Amsterdam), management (ITP, M.B.A., and D.B.A., Harvard Business School), and psychoanalysis (Canadian Psychoanalytic Society and the International Psychoanalytic Association), he scrutinizes the interface between international management, psychoanalysis, psychotherapy, and dynamic psychiatry. His specific areas of interest are leadership development, top executive team building, organizational change and cross-cultural management.
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Lundy Bancroft is well-known for his work in the area of domestic violence. His 30 years of study and counseling abusive men has provided incredible help and healing for women in particular. He is an excellent seminar leader and charges reasonable fees. He has spent the last several years focusing on building community understanding for abuse in the legal and child protection systems.
DR. DIANE LANGBERG
Dr. Diane Langberg is a practicing psychologist whose clinical expertise includes 35 years of working with trauma survivors and clergy. She speaks internationally on topics related to women, trauma, ministry and the Christian life.
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BOOKS & ARTICLES
“20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You.” By Arabi, Shahida. Thought Catalog, June 30, 2016. http://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2016/06/20-diversion-tactics-highly-manipulative-narcissists-sociopaths-and-psychopaths-use-to-silence-you/
Aftershock: What to Do When Leaders (and others) Fail You by Ted Kitchens. [Get on Amazon]
The Allure of Toxic Leaders: Why We Follow Destructive Bosses and Corrupt Politicians–and How We Can Survive Them by Lipman-Blumen, Jean. Oxford University Press, 2004. [Get on Amazon]
The Anxiety Cure by Archibald Hart. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2001. [Get on Amazon]
Behind the Masks: Personality Disorders in Religious Behavior by Wayne Oates [Get on Amazon]
BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns by Bill Eddy. Second edition. Scottsdale, Arizona: Unhooked Books, 2014. [Paperback or Kindle]
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk MD. 1st ed. New York: Penguin Books, 2014. [Get on Amazon]
Bold Love by Dan Allender [Get on Amazon]
Broken Trust: a practical guide to identify and recover from toxic faith, toxic church, and spiritual abuse by F. Remy Diederich. Independently published, September 14, 2017. [Get on Amazon]
The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job by Gary Namie and Ruth Namie. 2nd ed. Naperville, IL: Sourcebooks, 2009. [Get on Amazon]
Bullying in the Workplace: Causes, Symptoms, and Remedies by John Lipinski and Laura M. Crothers, eds. New York: Routledge, 2013. [Get on Amazon]
“Capstone 2-8: Conclusions: Lessons to Learn from the Meltdown of Mars Hill.” Futuristguy, January 8, 2015. https://futuristguy.wordpress.com/2015/01/08/capstone-2-8-conclusions-lessons-to-learn-from-the-meltdown-of-mars-hill/.
Character Assassins: Dealing with Ecclesiastical Tyrants and Terrorists by Peter Hammond and Brian Abshire. [Get on Amazon]
Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age by George Simon [Get on Amazon]
A Church Called Tov: Forming a Goodness Culture That Resists Abuses of Power and Promotes Healing by Scot McKnight, Laura Barringer, and Tish Harrison Warren. Carol Stream, Illinois: Tyndale Momentum, 2020. [Get on Amazon]
Churches That Abuse by Ronald M. Enroth. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1993. [Get on Amazon]
“Corporate Psychopaths, Bullying and Unfair Supervision in the Workplace” by Clive R. Boddy, Journal of Business Ethics 100, no. 3 (May 2011): 367–79.
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing by Beverly Engel. 1st edition. Wiley, 2007. [Get on Amazon]
Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse: Creating Healthy Christian Cultures by Lisa Oakley and Justin Humphreys. SPCK, 2019. [Get on Amazon]
In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K Simon, Ph.D. 2nd ed. Little Rock, AR: Parkhurst Brothers Publishers Inc, 2010. [Get on Amazon]
In the House of Friends: Understanding and Healing from Spiritual Abuse in Christian Churches by Kenneth J. Garrett and Michael Langone. Wipf & Stock, 2020. [Get on Amazon]
Is It Abuse?: A Biblical Guide to Identifying Domestic Abuse and Helping Victims by Strickland, Darby. Phillipsburg, New Jersey: P & R Publishing, 2020. [Get on Amazon]
The Leader on the Couch: A Clinical Approach to Changing People and Organizations by Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries. 1st edition. Wiley, 2009. [Get on Amazon]
Mean Men: The Perversion of America’s Self-Made Man by Mark Lipton. Voussoir Press, 2017. [Get on Amazon]
The Neurotic Organization: Diagnosing and Changing Counterproductive Styles of Management by Manfred Kets de Vries and Danny Miller. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1984. [Get on Amazon]
“Narcissism And The System It Breeds” by Diane Langberg. Lecture, ELF Christian Counsellors Network, June 2, 2015. https://soundcloud.com/kendall-beachey/narcissism-and-the-system-it.
Narcissism in the Church: A Heart of Stone in Christian Relationships by David Orrison, PhD.. Independently published, January 10, 2019. [Get on Amazon]
The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t by Robert I. Sutton. New York: Business Plus, 2007. [Get on Amazon]
Playing God: Redeeming the Gift of Power by Andy Crouch. Downers Grove, IL: IVP Books, 2013. [Get on Amazon]
Redeeming Power: Understanding Authority and Abuse in the Church by Diane Langberg. Grand Rapids, Michigan: Brazos Pr, 2020. [Get on Amazon]
Rising Above a Toxic Workplace: Taking Care of Yourself in an Unhealthy Environment by Gary Chapman, Paul E. White, and Harold Myra. Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2014. [Get on Amazon]
“The Seven Habits of Spectacularly Unsuccessful Executives” by Eric Jackson. Forbes. http://www.forbes.com/sites/ericjackson/2012/01/02/the-seven-habits-of-spectacularly-unsuccessful-executives/.
Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can–and Should–Be Saved by By Lundy Bancroft and J. A. C. Patrissi. 1st edition. New York: Berkley, 2011. [Get on Amazon]
Something’s Not Right: Decoding the Hidden Tactics of Abuse–and Freeing Yourself from Its Power by Wade Mullen and Diane Mandt Langberg. Tyndale Momentum, 2020. [Get on Amazon]
Soul Repair: Rebuilding Your Spiritual Life by Jeff VanVonderen, Dale Ryan, and Juanita Ryan. 1st edition. Downers Grove, Ill: IVP Books, 2008. [Get on Amazon]
The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Authority within the Church by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen, African Ecclesial Review 35, no. 5 (October 1993) [Get on Amazon]
Suffering and the Heart of God by Diana Langberg [Get on Amazon]
Toxic Organizations – Welcome to the Fire of an Unhealthy Workplace by R. Bacal @ http://work911.com/articles/toxicorgs.htm
Toxic Workplace!: Managing Toxic Personalities and Their Systems of Power by Mitchell Kusy and Elizabeth Holloway. Jossey-Bass Publishers. [Get on Amazon]
Twisted Scriptures: Breaking Free from Churches That Abuse by Mary Alice Chrnalogar. Revised. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2010. [Get on Amazon]
Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church by Jeff Crippen and Rebecca Davis. Justice Keepers Publishing, 2015. [Get on Amazon]
The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition: How to Recognize It and How to Respond by Patricia Evans. 3rd ed. Avon, MA: Adams Media. [Get on Amazon]
Violence Among Us: Ministry to Families in Crisis by Branson, Brenda, and Paula J. Silva. Valley Forge, PA: Judson Press, 2007. [Get on Amazon]
Violent No More: Helping Men End Domestic Abuse, Third Ed. by Michael Paymar and Anne Ganley, Hunter House, 2015. [Get on Amazon]
“The Many Faces of Narcissism in the Church.” Vrbicek, Interview by Benjamin. ChristianityToday.com. https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2020/march/chuck-degroat-narcissism-comes-church.html.
When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community From Emotional and Spiritual Abuse by Chuck DeGroat and Richard J. Mouw. Downers Grove, Illinois: IVP, 2020. [Get on Amazon]
Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft [Get on Amazon]
The Workplace Bullying Institute – www.workplacebullying.org
The Wounded Minister: Healing from and Preventing Personal Attacks by Guy Greenfield [Get on Amazon]