Resources for Survivors

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On this page we will periodically add book recommendations and links to helpful articles. If you have read something that was particularly healing, let us know. We would like to share it.


Dr. Paul White
paul-white-onsite-trainingDr. Paul White, author of Rising Above a Toxic Workplace (listed below) provides practical resources to help people across the world build healthy work relationships.

Manfred Kets de Vries
Manfred de VriesManfred F. R. Kets de Vries brings a different view to the much-studied subjects of leadership and the dynamics of individual and organizational change. Bringing to bear his knowledge and experience of economics (Econ. Drs., University of Amsterdam), management (ITP, M.B.A., and D.B.A., Harvard Business School), and psychoanalysis (Canadian Psychoanalytic Society and the International Psychoanalytic Association), he scrutinizes the interface between international management, psychoanalysispsychotherapy, and dynamic psychiatry. His specific areas of interest are leadership development, top executive team building, organizational change and cross-cultural management.
The word Leadership is like the word Religion. It means so many different things to people that it has become meaningless. How can you invest in Leadership Development company without a clear definition of what it is? Our Leadership Philosophy is based on nine principles [go to website to see these principles]. It is our definition designed to help clarify what good leaders look like – the Leaders we develop.

Lundy Bancroft
Lundy BancroftLundy Bancroft is well-known for his work in the area of domestic violence. His 30 years of study, counseling abusive men, has provided incredible help and healing for women in particular. He is an excellent seminar leader and and charges reasonable fees. He has spent the last several years focusing on building community understanding for abuse in the legal and child protection systems. 

Dr. Diane Langberg

Diane Langberg

Dr. Diane Langberg is a practicing psychologist whose clinical expertise includes 35 years of working with trauma survivors and clergy. She speaks internationally on topics related to women, trauma, ministry and the Christian life.



“20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths And Psychopaths Use To Silence You.” By Arabi, Shahida. Thought Catalog, June 30, 2016.

Aftershock: What to Do When Leaders (and others) Fail You by Ted Kitchens. [Get on Amazon]

The Allure of Toxic Leaders: Why We Follow Destructive Bosses and Corrupt Politicians–and How We Can Survive Them by Lipman-Blumen, Jean. Oxford University Press, 2004. [Get on Amazon]

The Anxiety Cure by Archibald Hart. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2001. [Get on Amazon]

Behind the Masks: Personality Disorders in Religious Behavior by Wayne Oates [Get on Amazon]

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk MD. 1st ed. New York: Penguin Books, 2014. [Get on Amazon]

Bold Love by Dan Allender [Get on Amazon]

The Bully at Work: What You Can Do to Stop the Hurt and Reclaim Your Dignity on the Job by Gary Namie and Ruth Namie. 2nd ed. Naperville, IL: Sourcebooks, 2009. [Get on Amazon]

Bullying in the Workplace: Causes, Symptoms, and Remedies by John Lipinski and Laura M. Crothers, eds. New York: Routledge, 2013. [Get on Amazon]

“Capstone 2-8: Conclusions: Lessons to Learn from the Meltdown of Mars Hill.” Futuristguy, January 8, 2015.

Character Assassins: Dealing with Ecclesiastical Tyrants and Terrorists by Peter Hammond and Brian Abshire. [Get on Amazon]

Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age by George Simon [Get on Amazon]

“Corporate Psychopaths, Bullying and Unfair Supervision in the Workplace” by Clive R. Boddy,  Journal of Business Ethics 100, no. 3 (May 2011): 367–79.

Churches That Abuse by Ronald M. Enroth. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1993. [Get on Amazon]

Crippen, Jeff, and Rebecca Davis. Unholy Charade: Unmasking the Domestic Abuser in the Church. Justice Keepers Publishing, 2015. [Get on Amazon]

In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K Simon, Ph.D. 2nd ed. Little Rock, AR: Parkhurst Brothers Publishers Inc, 2010. [Get on Amazon]

The Leader on the Couch: A Clinical Approach to Changing People and Organizations by Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries. 1st edition. Wiley, 2009. [Get on Amazon]

Mean Men: The Perversion of America’s Self-Made Man by Mark Lipton. Voussoir Press, 2017. [Get on Amazon]

The Neurotic Organization: Diagnosing and Changing Counterproductive Styles of Management Manfred Kets de Vries and Danny Miller. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1984. [Get on Amazon]

“Narcissism And The System It Breeds” by Diane Langberg.  Lecture, ELF Christian Counsellors Network, June 2, 2015.

The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t by Robert I. Sutton. New York: Business Plus, 2007. [Get on Amazon]

Playing God: Redeeming the Gift of Power by Andy Crouch. Downers Grove, IL: IVP Books, 2013. [Get on Amazon]

Rising Above a Toxic Workplace: Taking Care of Yourself in an Unhealthy Environment by Gary Chapman, Paul E. White, and Harold Myra. Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2014. [Get on Amazon]

“The Seven Habits of Spectacularly Unsuccessful Executives” by Eric Jackson. Forbes.

The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Authority within the Church, by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen, African Ecclesial Review 35, no. 5 (October 1993) [Get on Amazon]

Suffering and the Heart of God by Diana Langberg [Get on Amazon]

Twisted Scriptures: Breaking Free from Churches That Abuse by Mary Alice Chrnalogar.  Revised. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2010. [Get on Amazon]

Toxic Organizations – Welcome to the Fire of an Unhealthy Workplace by R. Bacal @

Toxic Workplace!: Managing Toxic Personalities and Their Systems of Power Mitchell Kusy and Elizabeth Holloway. Jossey-Bass Publishers. [Get on Amazon]

Vrbicek, Interview by Benjamin. “The Many Faces of Narcissism in the Church.”

Violent No More: Helping Men End Domestic Abuse, Third Ed., 3 edition by Michael Paymar and Anne Ganley, Hunter House, 2015. [Get on Amazon]

Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft [Get on Amazon]

The Workplace Bullying Institute –

The Wounded Minister: Healing from and Preventing Personal Attacks by Guy Greenfield [Get on Amazon]


The editor of Pearls and Swine Site spent eight years on the mission field. His book, To Africa On a Lark, is the story of a gradual awaking to cultural engagement.

The book may be purchased on Kindle from Amazon [$9.99] or by ordering the paperback below.

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To purchase a paperback of “To Africa On a Lark”


What others say about the book:

[To Africa On a Lark] is extremely readable, with an easy to follow flow. The stories are quite engaging…The overall theme of cross-cultural adjustment, with the “razor” image, comes through clearly. I hope that many will read, enjoy, and benefit from your engaging string of accounts.

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