Michael and Kate realized the abuse of power by bullying, control, using the scriptures to condemn, shunning, and slander had been going on for a long time.
Part 2: It has been two years since the Williams left Peace Community Church. Blame-shifting and isolating, Kate's pastor has deeply hurt many in leadership.
It has been two years since the Williams left Peace Community Church. You either confront the abuse, or you enable and embolden it. Silence only serves the abuser. Sin grows in the dark.
Mia suffered under a leadership that was more concerned about following their church rules than the love of Christ. Their spiritual abuse was worse than her experiences of sexual abuses.
Mia's change in behavior at home and struggle with the church had its roots in her experience of sexual abuse. It was not too late for Mia, but the church and her parents were going to need to respond to her struggles in light of these horrible experiences as a child.
When do you give up on a toxic leader? More often than not, leadership abuse survivors struggle with "Accountability Guilt."
When the pastor is feeding on the sheep, it can be difficult for a church member to separate their faith in Christ from their faith in the leader.
Generally, positive stories about how the church responds to abuse are far and few between. But, Janice's is different.
It is bad enough when men (and women) do not believe our story of abuse in the home or workplace. But, when you feel that God is not even answering your cries for help. That is isolation.
In my study of toxic leadership over the years, I have found that many authors - experts in their various fields whether psychology, theology, or business management - want to give hope to their readers. They provide many excellent ideas on how to remain under a toxic leader while pursuing a flourishing ministry. "Self-differentiation", conflict … Continue reading Why Leave a Toxic Organization?