When the pastor is feeding on the sheep, it can be difficult for a church member to separate their faith in Christ from their faith in the leader.
Generally, positive stories about how the church responds to abuse are far and few between. But, Janice's is different.
Many Christians are suspicious of systems theory because they think in a “western individualistic” way. However, the Bible was written largely to a much less individualistic culture and speaks much holistically to both individual and group think.
It is bad enough when men (and women) do not believe our story of abuse in the home or workplace. But, when you feel that God is not even answering your cries for help. That is isolation.
In my study of toxic leadership over the years, I have found that many authors - experts in their various fields whether psychology, theology, or business management - want to give hope to their readers. They provide many excellent ideas on how to remain under a toxic leader while pursuing a flourishing ministry. "Self-differentiation", conflict … Continue reading Why Leave a Toxic Organization?
After sharing her unbearable stress, Susan was nearly ignored by her church leadership.
A fundamental character trait of good leaders is humility. However, the church continues to create more James MacDonalds, James Bakkers, Mark Driscolls, Bill Hybels, Jerry Falwell Jrs....etc.
It all started so well. A good looking and humble guy. The first book of Kings describes King Solomon as a godly man. He "loved the Lord, walking in the statutes of David his father." And if that wasn't clear enough, when asked by the Lord what his desire was, his response was to ask … Continue reading Solomon: From Riches to Rags
Daniel lost his job, but as he noted, "The real abuse was not in being fired unjustly [which he was], but in [Pastor Jim] having to control the narrative in every situation...the manipulation, gas lighting, and his constant need to fight."
There are a number of indicators of abusive leadership and it is important to be able to diagnose toxic leadership and root it out from your organization. Because it will kill your organization.