One particular result (and technique) of abuse is isolation. It is deeply hurtful. And it is almost always, in my experience, a result of or intentional tool in the abusive individual's kit.
Abuse
I Loathe My Life: Listening to Victims
Those who are honored to hear an abuse victim's story need to hear Job's story. They need to hear his words . . . and they need to hear his friends' words.
Pastoral Steamroller: Michael’s Story
Michael and Kate realized the abuse of power by bullying, control, using the scriptures to condemn, shunning, and slander had been going on for a long time.
PCC’s Dirty Little Secret: Kate’s Story Part Two
Part 2: It has been two years since the Williams left Peace Community Church. Blame-shifting and isolating, Kate's pastor has deeply hurt many in leadership.
Mia’s Story: A Bruised Reed He Will Not Break
Mia suffered under a leadership that was more concerned about following their church rules than the love of Christ. Their spiritual abuse was worse than her experiences of sexual abuses.
Tyrants Leading the Church: Seekers of Position, Role & Status
Mia's change in behavior at home and struggle with the church had its roots in her experience of sexual abuse. It was not too late for Mia, but the church and her parents were going to need to respond to her struggles in light of these horrible experiences as a child.
When the Church Gets It Right: Janice’s Story
Generally, positive stories about how the church responds to abuse are far and few between. But, Janice's is different.
Isolation: You Are Not Alone
It is bad enough when men (and women) do not believe our story of abuse in the home or workplace. But, when you feel that God is not even answering your cries for help. That is isolation.
Sweet Vindication [of God]
Will the "evil" God returns to my abuser be in this life (through trials and tribulations), the end of his life, or simply in the final judgment? He says, in faithfulness, he will "put an end to them."
Neglect in Leadership: Who Will Listen?
After sharing her unbearable stress, Susan was nearly ignored by her church leadership.
Pearls & Swine 