Complicity: Going Along to Get Along

What keeps abuse of authority in the workplace and home alive? Going along to get along. It is man's penchant for crowd-mongering. It is my penchant for pleasing others. While reading the beginning of the book of Proverbs in the Bible, I was struck by the applicability of the very first chapter to the experience … Continue reading Complicity: Going Along to Get Along

Not As Things Ought to Be: Grieving Our Loss

Olivia had been abused emotionally by her husband for more than 30 years. She finally got free. She was living in her new-found freedom when he showed up once again, having been gone for over a year. He was getting more and more aggressive as he sought to gain entrance to her life once again. … Continue reading Not As Things Ought to Be: Grieving Our Loss

Chapman: Bitter Justice

How do we seek accountability for evil leaders and remain bitter-free? While serving in another country as missionaries, my family became quite delighted with a drink called a "Chapman." It was made of Sobo orange drink, bitters, and 7Up. We enjoyed sipping on them like Southerners sip their sweet tea. Bitters, for those who do not know, … Continue reading Chapman: Bitter Justice

Toxic Survival Guide: The Action Plan – Part 3

How do you survive the wilderness of the workplace? When you love your job and your boss makes it his job to support your creative energies, it is easy. But, when the boss is like a wild grizzly seeking whom he may devour...that is a problem. It is no less difficult as a Christian to … Continue reading Toxic Survival Guide: The Action Plan – Part 3

Toxic Survival Guide: The Psychology – Part 2

They just are not normal. They wreak havoc and drain the life out of organizations and their subordinates. So, what are you going to do when you work for a toxic boss? "The Toxic Boss Survival Guide" provides a map for surviving in the wilderness of the workplace. In this second part of a series on this … Continue reading Toxic Survival Guide: The Psychology – Part 2

Retooling Ministry: Mark’s Story of Abusive Pastoral Leadership

Mark was a church planter, establishing an off-site satellite campus. He was hired by a large, multi-campus ministry to resurrect a church with less than twenty members, all in their elderly years. When interviewed for the job by the senior pastor and the offsite coordinator, he was told he would be starting to lead services that … Continue reading Retooling Ministry: Mark’s Story of Abusive Pastoral Leadership

Shalom: Peace in Departure

Approximately a year after her termination from an international mission organization, Susan said, “By the grace of God [I was] not looking over my shoulder and not wishing things were the way they were.” Susan relayed how an acquaintance, who had gone through a similar experience of abusive leadership, had remarked that it was over … Continue reading Shalom: Peace in Departure

Shalom: Peace in the Serving

Many who join Christian organizations as volunteers or paid employees understand it to be a calling from God. This calling drives them on while facing the inevitable trials associated with serving Christ in a broken world. Beat up relationships, financial struggle, and thankless service are commonplace in our service in God's kingdom. We find shalom … Continue reading Shalom: Peace in the Serving

Abuse Strips People of Their Hope

The horrible effects of working under toxic employers are legion. Dan Allender, the author of the book, "Bold Love," says, “Evil…strips people of their hope.”[1] A study found up to 15% of suicides committed in Sweden were “due to isolation and victimization at work.”[2] It is hard to hope in a future when caught in the brokenness … Continue reading Abuse Strips People of Their Hope

Sinking a Christian Organization: Normal Leadership Failures

There once was a frog swimming happily in a river. He heard a voice call out from the riverbank. As he came closer he saw it was a scorpion. The scorpion asked the frog for a ride across the river. The frog, knowing scorpions, refused saying, "Scorpions sting. How do I know you won't kill … Continue reading Sinking a Christian Organization: Normal Leadership Failures