Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
I sat in the plush CEO's office of a Christian mission organization. A friend had known the mission leader since their parents had worked together on the field when they were children. We were happy to join her though a bit suspicious of her reading of the situation. We knew the president as a charming and responsive leader.
As I sat down a couple mornings ago to read God's Word and consider His mindfulness of me, I was led to Psalm 27 by a lovely little devotional called, "Jesus Calling."
What keeps abuse of authority in the workplace and home alive? Going along to get along. It is man's penchant for crowd-mongering. It is my penchant for pleasing others. While reading the beginning of the book of Proverbs in the Bible, I was struck by the applicability of the very first chapter to the experience … Continue reading Complicity: Going Along to Get Along
Olivia had been abused emotionally by her husband for more than 30 years. She finally got free. She was living in her new-found freedom when he showed up once again, having been gone for over a year. He was getting more and more aggressive as he sought to gain entrance to her life once again. … Continue reading Not As Things Ought to Be: Grieving Our Loss
How do we seek accountability for evil leaders and remain bitter-free? While serving in another country as missionaries, my family became quite delighted with a drink called a "Chapman." It was made of Sobo orange drink, bitters, and 7Up. We enjoyed sipping on them like Southerners sip their sweet tea. Bitters, for those who do not know, … Continue reading Chapman: Bitter Justice
How do you survive the wilderness of the workplace? When you love your job and your boss makes it his job to support your creative energies, it is easy. But, when the boss is like a wild grizzly seeking whom he may devour...that is a problem. It is no less difficult as a Christian to … Continue reading Toxic Survival Guide: The Action Plan – Part 3
They just are not normal. They wreak havoc and drain the life out of organizations and their subordinates. So, what are you going to do when you work for a toxic boss? "The Toxic Boss Survival Guide" provides a map for surviving in the wilderness of the workplace. In this second part of a series on this … Continue reading Toxic Survival Guide: The Psychology – Part 2
Mark was a church planter, establishing an off-site satellite campus. He was hired by a large, multi-campus ministry to resurrect a church with less than twenty members, all in their elderly years. When interviewed for the job by the senior pastor and the offsite coordinator, he was told he would be starting to lead services that … Continue reading Retooling Ministry: Mark’s Story of Abusive Pastoral Leadership
Approximately a year after her termination from an international mission organization, Susan said, “By the grace of God [I was] not looking over my shoulder and not wishing things were the way they were.” Susan relayed how an acquaintance, who had gone through a similar experience of abusive leadership, had remarked that it was over … Continue reading Shalom: Peace in Departure