Will the "evil" God returns to my abuser be in this life (through trials and tribulations), the end of his life, or simply in the final judgment? He says, in faithfulness, he will "put an end to them."
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
It is hit or miss when it comes to finding justice and healing in the church or Christian organization. We need professional help!
My first degrees were in music performance. It was then I learned a valuable lesson about responding to abuse.
I sat in the plush CEO's office of a Christian mission organization. A friend had known the mission leader since their parents had worked together on the field when they were children. We were happy to join her though a bit suspicious of her reading of the situation. We knew the president as a charming and responsive leader.
When I faced off with my mission's leadership, I needed a friend. Sam was there all along preparing me for the stand I needed to take.
Marsha sought help from church leaders for 22 years. They didn't think that was long enough to live with an abusive husband. The church's theology of divorce is hurtful and unbiblical.
Daniel lost his job, but as he noted, "The real abuse was not in being fired unjustly [which he was], but in [Pastor Jim] having to control the narrative in every situation...the manipulation, gas lighting, and his constant need to fight."
If you are on the side of the oppressed...you are on the side of the Lord.
Sandi has worked for mission agencies almost her entire adult career. And she has experienced multiple toxic leaders in nearly all those agencies.