Years ago, in my seminary ethics course, my professor delved into foundational biblical grounds for divorce. He noted that the specific grounds for divorce, clearly taught in Scripture, are adultery and desertion. But he went on to explain that the biblical foundation of those two grounds is that they are a “radical breach of the marriage covenant.” A “radical breach” is not some disagreements or “we have just grown apart.” When there has been a great betrayal by the spouse such as an adulterous relationship or a pattern of failure to love and care for one's spouse (Exodus 21:7-11), the marriage covenant has been radically broken and God, in His mercy, says the offended spouse may make the radically broken covenant legal through divorce.
Forgiveness
Making a Difference: Research that is Boots on the Ground in Dracula’s Neighborhood
Truly toxic leadership always ends badly. This is a type of leadership distinguished by a lack of humility to see and respond to their own failings. Sure, there are "grey" leaders who might be too harsh or somewhere along the line of narcisissm, but they respond to confrontation with thoughtfulness and a willingness to work on their leadership skills. But toxic leadership does not possess this humility.
Saul’s False Apology: Seeking Repentance from an Abuser
What do you do with an apology from an abusive leader? Real apologies are rare due to inner evil. But we are not omniscient so give it time.
Lisa’s Victory: A Missionary Horror Story
She knew that God was calling her to be a missionary. His seeming commitment to Christ and a future as a missionary "touched" her and they were married. But he can no longer harm Lisa.
Aaron’s Story: Pastor as Predator
I could tell in our discussion that Aaron was the dream employee. After two years of serving in the church, Aaron came home to his wife and shared with her, “I think Pastor Gene has a man-crush on me.”
All That Glitters Is Not Gold: Emily’s Story
Emily joined the African mission work because it "sounded good. It was the way we should be helping." But all that glitters is not gold...
Shouts of Gladness
When it goes well with the righteous, the city rejoices, and when the wicked perish there are shouts of gladness.
When the Church Gets It Right: Janice’s Story
Generally, positive stories about how the church responds to abuse are far and few between. But, Janice's is different.
Saving a Relationship | Job with an Abuser
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
My Friend, Sam
When I faced off with my mission's leadership, I needed a friend. Sam was there all along preparing me for the stand I needed to take.