Why do survivors of domestic violence go back to their abusers? The same reasons pop up within the toxic workplace for why employees stay with an abusive organization.
Abuse. Devastates. People. Not just the abuse that involves hitting. But abuse of all forms - emotional and spiritual.
When the pastor is feeding on the sheep, it can be difficult for a church member to separate their faith in Christ from their faith in the leader.
Generally, positive stories about how the church responds to abuse are far and few between. But, Janice's is different.
Many Christians are suspicious of systems theory because they think in a “western individualistic” way. However, the Bible was written largely to a much less individualistic culture and speaks much holistically to both individual and group think.
It is bad enough when men (and women) do not believe our story of abuse in the home or workplace. But, when you feel that God is not even answering your cries for help. That is isolation.
Abusers actually have a great deal of self-control. They know when to dismember and when to charm.
Pride and jealousy. It is extraordinary what these sins can do to a leader.
Those who suggest emotional or verbal abuse is not really abuse need to consider scripture and psychology.
Saul was just like the other kings. He was wicked and abusive. And he had enablers who supported his abusive behavior.