The continuum of abuse provides for both hope and confusion. Abusive individuals and Abusers are two different animals. Tread carefully.
Praising abusive leaders, no matter how much good they have also done, can further traumatize those who have suffered under their leadership.
Susie spent 3 years serving an abusive and lying pastor.There's no way but out.
Jacob simply described his Pastor as a narcissist. But, it took over an hour for him to describe all the destruction wrought by his Senior Pastor while Jacob served the burgeoning church plant. Jacob had studied for two years in college before he and his wife joined a church that had been a church … Continue reading The Narcissist Pastor: Jacob’s True and Painful Tale
King David was a quality leader. His followers were a mixed bag.
What keeps abuse of authority in the workplace and home alive? Going along to get along. It is man's penchant for crowd-mongering. It is my penchant for pleasing others. While reading the beginning of the book of Proverbs in the Bible, I was struck by the applicability of the very first chapter to the experience … Continue reading Complicity: Going Along to Get Along
Olivia had been abused emotionally by her husband for more than 30 years. She finally got free. She was living in her new-found freedom when he showed up once again, having been gone for over a year. He was getting more and more aggressive as he sought to gain entrance to her life once again. … Continue reading Not As Things Ought to Be: Grieving Our Loss
How do we seek accountability for evil leaders and remain bitter-free? While serving in another country as missionaries, my family became quite delighted with a drink called a "Chapman." It was made of Sobo orange drink, bitters, and 7Up. We enjoyed sipping on them like Southerners sip their sweet tea. Bitters, for those who do not know, … Continue reading Chapman: Bitter Justice
Those who work for toxic bosses are often a bit blind to and fail to understand abuse. There are toxic bosses and there are "garden-variety bad" bosses. There is a difference. And it makes a big difference.Do you want some tactics for "navigating the wilderness at work?" Chappelow, Ronayne, and Adams have written an enjoyable little … Continue reading Toxic Survival Guide: Impact – Part 1
Abuse Trauma creates significant neurological disorder. The Church needs to be a place of safety and healing.