When your pastor says, "If you don't trust me, you don't trust God," run.
People were created to love God and neighbor. They were created to care for and keep the world [Genesis 2:15]. To create flourishing. They were not created to sow power and reap abuse.
A fundamental character trait of good leaders is humility. However, the church continues to create more James MacDonalds, James Bakkers, Mark Driscolls, Bill Hybels, Jerry Falwell Jrs....etc.
What should be second nature to Christian organizations has, in some ways, been purloined by business leadership. Teamwork.
God's communication through His creation can be extraordinarily helpful as we minister to survivors of abuse.
Marsha sought help from church leaders for 22 years. They didn't think that was long enough to live with an abusive husband. The church's theology of divorce is hurtful and unbiblical.
It all started so well. A good looking and humble guy. The first book of Kings describes King Solomon as a godly man. He "loved the Lord, walking in the statutes of David his father." And if that wasn't clear enough, when asked by the Lord what his desire was, his response was to ask … Continue reading Solomon: From Riches to Rags
Daniel lost his job, but as he noted, "The real abuse was not in being fired unjustly [which he was], but in [Pastor Jim] having to control the narrative in every situation...the manipulation, gas lighting, and his constant need to fight."
There are a number of indicators of abusive leadership and it is important to be able to diagnose toxic leadership and root it out from your organization. Because it will kill your organization.
We wish you the Peace of God that surpasses all understanding in this New Year.