Pearls & Swine Site

Bringing Hope & Healing to Targets of Abusive Leadership in Christian Organizations

Skip to content
  • About P & S
  • Stories & Articles
  • Resources
  • Contact P & S
  • Give to P & S
Search

Trauma

Jeanie’s Story: Shepherding Abuse Survivors Takes Wisdom

December 28, 2024August 9, 2025 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

Jeanie endured years of emotional and sexual abuse from her husband Richard, facing neglect and inadequate support from church leaders.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

A Covenant of Peace: When the Lord Banishes Toxic Leadership

November 2, 2024December 3, 2025 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

Toxic leadership affects many, but a future promise exists when the Lord will eradicate such leadership and provide true care.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

Job’s Counselors: The Misuse of Spiritual Influence

May 20, 2024November 24, 2025 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

The book of Job highlights misguided counseling of abuse victims rooted in black-and-white beliefs, instead of comprehensive biblical theology. Remember,buse victims are never at fault for the abuse they experience.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

Susie and the Dictator: Assisting an Authoritarian Pastor

April 19, 2023October 19, 2025 / pearlsandswinesite / 2 Comments

Susie's story is not uncommon. Her story is an example of a church work environment that is destructive and extraordinarily complex because highly authoritarian leadership is destructive and extraordinarily complex.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

It’s Not an Affair: Clergy-Perpetrated Sexual Abuse of Adults

March 13, 2023October 19, 2025 / pearlsandswinesite / 3 Comments

Jada said she "felt like a prisoner set free" when she left her sexually and spiritually abusive pastor. 

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

Silencing Victims in the Church: Kayla and Amber’s Story

February 17, 2023October 19, 2025 / pearlsandswinesite / 2 Comments

Amber, a young adult, was committed to church. She loved the fellowship and teaching. Then something happened.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

Consider It Joy [In Time]! Weeping With Those Who Weep

January 31, 2023January 31, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

"Consider it joy! It will make you stronger." Yes, the Bible tells me so. But it so often seems so callous for someone to remind me of it. Rather, Weep.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

Repentance and Restitution: Giving Feet to Confession

January 11, 2023August 14, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / 1 Comment

Biblical repentance is difficult to understand. The word is used freely as though everyone gets it. But identifying the actual repentant heart is not so easy. Restitution can help.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

Giving Leaders a Free Pass: The Story of Praise

November 30, 2022December 1, 2022 / pearlsandswinesite / 1 Comment

Having spent nearly a decade working for a mission college in Africa, I have a keen interest in African leadership. When I spoke with Praise (not his real name), he shared his own experience with leadership abuse in the African nation in which he grew up.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

My Close Friends Have Forgotten Me: Isolating Victims

November 17, 2022September 9, 2023 / pearlsandswinesite / Leave a comment

One particular result (and technique) of abuse is isolation. It is deeply hurtful. And it is almost always, in my experience, a result of or intentional tool in the abusive individual's kit.

Share this:

  • Tweet
  • Print (Opens in new window) Print

Like this:

Like Loading...

Posts navigation

← Older posts

Categories

  • Leadership (159)
  • Abuse (130)
  • Accountability (119)
  • Christian Organization (106)
  • Pastoral Abuse (99)

Tags

  • toxic leadership (89)
  • Leadership (48)
  • biblical leadership (42)
  • Abuse (39)
  • autocratic (33)

Year

  • 2026 (11)
  • 2025 (17)
  • 2024 (23)
  • 2023 (30)
  • 2022 (26)
One-Time
Monthly
Yearly

Contribute to Pearls & Swine Site

Make a monthly donation

Make a yearly donation

Choose an amount

$5.00
$15.00
$25.00
$5.00
$15.00
$100.00
$5.00
$15.00
$100.00

Or enter a custom amount

$

Thank you for providing help and healing to those under toxic leadership.

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

DonateDonate monthlyDonate yearly

Archive

  • March 2026
  • February 2026
  • January 2026
  • December 2025
  • November 2025
  • October 2025
  • August 2025
  • July 2025
  • June 2025
  • May 2025
  • April 2025
  • March 2025
  • February 2025
  • January 2025
  • December 2024
  • November 2024
  • September 2024
  • August 2024
  • July 2024
  • June 2024
  • May 2024
  • April 2024
  • February 2024
  • January 2024
  • December 2023
  • November 2023
  • October 2023
  • September 2023
  • August 2023
  • July 2023
  • May 2023
  • April 2023
  • March 2023
  • February 2023
  • January 2023
  • December 2022
  • November 2022
  • October 2022
  • September 2022
  • August 2022
  • July 2022
  • June 2022
  • May 2022
  • April 2022
  • March 2022
  • February 2022
  • January 2022
  • December 2021
  • November 2021
  • October 2021
  • September 2021
  • August 2021
  • July 2021
  • June 2021
  • May 2021
  • April 2021
  • March 2021
  • February 2021
  • January 2021
  • December 2020
  • October 2020
  • September 2020
  • August 2020
  • July 2020
  • June 2020
  • May 2020
  • April 2020
  • March 2020
  • February 2020
  • January 2020
  • December 2019
  • November 2019
  • October 2019
  • September 2019
  • August 2019
  • July 2019
  • June 2019
  • May 2019
  • April 2019
  • March 2019
  • February 2019
  • January 2019
  • December 2018
  • November 2018
  • October 2018
  • September 2018
  • August 2018
  • July 2018
  • June 2018
  • May 2018
  • April 2018
  • March 2018
  • February 2018
  • January 2018
  • December 2017
  • November 2017
  • October 2017
  • September 2017
  • June 2017
  • May 2017

Navigation

  • About P & S
  • Stories & Articles
  • Resources
  • Contact P & S
  • Give to P & S

Follow P&S via Email

Enter your email address to follow P&S and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 2,236 other subscribers
Create a website or blog at WordPress.com
 

Loading Comments...
 

    %d