Abusers actually have a great deal of self-control. They know when to dismember and when to charm.
Pastoral Abuse
All Things for Good: Beauty from Ashes
It is not uncommon to hear people speak of the good that has come from a leader even though he or she is toxic. Let's not draw those lines.
Psalm 59: Jealousy & Toxic Leadership
Pride and jealousy. It is extraordinary what these sins can do to a leader.
Tongues Are Sharp As Swords: Verbal Abuse in the Bible
Those who suggest emotional or verbal abuse is not really abuse need to consider scripture and psychology.
Authorized Unity: Loyalty, Allegiance and Fidelity
When your pastor says, "If you don't trust me, you don't trust God," run.
Sweet Vindication [of God]
Will the "evil" God returns to my abuser be in this life (through trials and tribulations), the end of his life, or simply in the final judgment? He says, in faithfulness, he will "put an end to them."
Enabling Abusers: Saul and the Ziphites
Saul was just like the other kings. He was wicked and abusive. And he had enablers who supported his abusive behavior.
Saving a Relationship | Job with an Abuser
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
Counterfeit Gods: The Power and the Glory
Timothy Keller writes insightfully, "To be your own god and live for your own glory and power leads to the most bestial and cruel kind of behavior. Pride makes you a predator, not a person."
Humility. Humility. Humility.
Indicative of the abuse of power in the home, church, organization, or workplace is entitlement. Scripture gives no leeway to those who think they are particularly important.