Abusers actually have a great deal of self-control. They know when to dismember and when to charm.
Pride and jealousy. It is extraordinary what these sins can do to a leader.
Those who suggest emotional or verbal abuse is not really abuse need to consider scripture and psychology.
When your pastor says, "If you don't trust me, you don't trust God," run.
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
It is hit or miss when it comes to finding justice and healing in the church or Christian organization. We need professional help!
Timothy Keller writes insightfully, "To be your own god and live for your own glory and power leads to the most bestial and cruel kind of behavior. Pride makes you a predator, not a person."
Indicative of the abuse of power in the home, church, organization, or workplace is entitlement. Scripture gives no leeway to those who think they are particularly important.
In the experience of abusive leadership in the home, workplace, and government, it is not uncommon to hear demands of submission as if the leader has absolute and ultimate authority. Biblically, it is not true. Don't be fooled by the blustering.
Wading into the depths of Psalms 44 & 46can be both the healing balm and helpful aid to building boundaries that protect our integrity from those who war against a Biblical understanding of abuse.