It is not uncommon to hear people speak of the good that has come from a leader even though he or she is toxic. Let's not draw those lines.
When your pastor says, "If you don't trust me, you don't trust God," run.
Will the "evil" God returns to my abuser be in this life (through trials and tribulations), the end of his life, or simply in the final judgment? He says, in faithfulness, he will "put an end to them."