Abusers actually have a great deal of self-control. They know when to dismember and when to charm.
It is not uncommon to hear people speak of the good that has come from a leader even though he or she is toxic. Let's not draw those lines.
Pride and jealousy. It is extraordinary what these sins can do to a leader.
Those who suggest emotional or verbal abuse is not really abuse need to consider scripture and psychology.
When your pastor says, "If you don't trust me, you don't trust God," run.
Saul was just like the other kings. He was wicked and abusive. And he had enablers who supported his abusive behavior.
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
Timothy Keller writes insightfully, "To be your own god and live for your own glory and power leads to the most bestial and cruel kind of behavior. Pride makes you a predator, not a person."
Indicative of the abuse of power in the home, church, organization, or workplace is entitlement. Scripture gives no leeway to those who think they are particularly important.
Wading into the depths of Psalms 44 & 46can be both the healing balm and helpful aid to building boundaries that protect our integrity from those who war against a Biblical understanding of abuse.