Abusers actually have a great deal of self-control. They know when to dismember and when to charm.
Those who suggest emotional or verbal abuse is not really abuse need to consider scripture and psychology.
When your pastor says, "If you don't trust me, you don't trust God," run.
Saul was just like the other kings. He was wicked and abusive. And he had enablers who supported his abusive behavior.
Do you want to regain a relationship (reconciliation) with an abuser? Are you seeking to save your job or your marriage? This is a clarion call that the only way a relationship with an abuser will be saved is through his repentance. Hold the line!
It is hit or miss when it comes to finding justice and healing in the church or Christian organization. We need professional help!
Indicative of the abuse of power in the home, church, organization, or workplace is entitlement. Scripture gives no leeway to those who think they are particularly important.
In the experience of abusive leadership in the home, workplace, and government, it is not uncommon to hear demands of submission as if the leader has absolute and ultimate authority. Biblically, it is not true. Don't be fooled by the blustering.
People were created to love God and neighbor. They were created to care for and keep the world [Genesis 2:15]. To create flourishing. They were not created to sow power and reap abuse.
As we watch current events unfold we are seeing the results of narcissism in bold and deeply disturbing colors.